Breathing Therapy

The nose has a left and a right side; we use both to inhale and exhale. Actually they are different.

The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon. During a headache, try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe.

If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while, you will feel your mind is refreshed.

Right side belongs to 'hot', so it gets heated up easily. Left side belongs to 'cold'. Most females breathe with their left noses, so they get "cooled off" faster. Most of the guys breathe with their right noses, they get worked up.

Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right? If left is faster, you will feel tired. So, close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing, you will get refreshed quickly.

Source: Unknown

Have faith in Him

Ongoing Self Reflection

Just went through an informal meeting for MAP progress with J. Don’t know why I have an uneasy feeling after the meeting. Many doubts run through my mind.

Have I asked too many questions?

Have I asked questions that I’m not suppose to ask?

Have I been too aggressive in giving feedbacks?

Have I used the wrong vocabulary in my sentence structure?

Have I accidentally provoked or hurt anyone’s feeling during the meeting?

Have I said something that I’m not suppose to say?

Without realizing it, I became more sensitive than usual after having bad experiences with some friends in the past. I admit that certain characteristics of mine are dislikeable by others. However, I understand that I cannot please everyone in my life because I’m only a normal human being. Only those friends who know me well would accept me for being who I am.

I have done my best to always improve myself by getting feedbacks from friends. I always try to fit into everyone but yet I’m being hold back by my own fear. The fear of accidentally hurting someone’s feeling without my knowing when I talk. This is my biggest concern when interacting with people.

Sometimes I really admire those girls with innocent-looking face because indirectly they have won the hearts of many. However, I was born with this cool-looking face which I think sometimes it has frighten people away thinking that I’m not approachable.

I always try to treat everyone politely but somehow it leads to people thinking that I’m either too formal or not friendly enough and that I’m cautious in my words and actions which created a barrier between us.

My friends always say that I’m too naive because I still see the world as a beautiful place which sometimes in reality it’s not that way.

My straight forward attitude is my biggest concern too because being too straight forward might lead to blunt words. But if you really know me well, be rest assured that I am sincere when I treat you as friends because I know how it feels when we’re not being treated sincerely.

First Impression

Life – As You See It

Friend: How’s life treating you?

Me: Life has been treating me with sweet, sour, bitter and spicy taste. It was harsh to me for a certain period but giving wonderful journey along the way! =)

How you feel in life very much depends on how you perceive and interpret it. Different people might feel differently giving the same situation to them. So before you start changing your life, change the way you think.

It’s November

It has been a long time since I last updated my blog. Work life definitely not as free as study life. The amount of free time I have is getting lesser. I guess that’s one of the reason for not updating my blog for so long. Well, of course I do have some time for personal life as well which is fully utilised for family and friends. Transition period is always the hardest to adjust the time. But one thing for sure, life is getting better with new working environment and new friends found. =)

To my dearest otto: I know for the past 5 months things have been tough for you. I know the situation has been harsh on you. I know it was difficult for you to endure. Hopefully, you can get over with it soon. After every stormy rain, there will always be a bright sun. May you start a brand new you with passion in your life’s journey!

The Replied Email

Hi Stef,

it has been a long time? how are you? Yes, everyday every moment I am GREAT. hehehehe. thank you. It is so great to hear from you. for you information, I didnt meet up with them. too bad -.-

advice? I dont have any advice to people.

if do, just one - LEARN

just take it as some suggestions or references. from what i have learned to what i am today.

LEARN to accept

LEARN to love

LEARN to give

we are born with two eyes, two ears but one mouth. do you know why? some people said it is the god's message. listen more, see more and TALK less.

LEARN to listen

LEARN not to judge

because everyone has their own rights, their own rules, own habits, own way, own style, not only in personality, but everything from the thoughts to the definition about things. nobody is ever the same. remember that you are so difference.

something is bothering you. the tears you drop. each one is telling you a message

- you are human being

- you know love

- you know the answer

I used to read that when you dont know the answer, it is probably you have too much answers. human needs security. we, include me needs acceptance from our family, friends and society. but first, we must accept who we are. we are already perfect. we must accept that we are human being having emotion, that is why we cry, laugh, excited, bored...we make mistake just the excellent example of human being.

in this situation, to me problems are already there. don't ever focus on the problems. whatever you focus, it grows. i see so MANY opportunities. i understand, when things go wrong, sometimes we get mess up and f up especially we lose ourselves. we blind our own eyes. to make things better in this situation, to me is to live and feel the fear, the sadness, make the emotion your good friends, date your friend, tell them - i am sorry for what had happened, can we just forget everything and live happily again?

if there were mistakes i made, hurt you, make you suffered, i would like to know and accept that and change. everyone wants to proof to each other, oh i am right, you are wrong. it is never my fault to bring up this issue.

you started the fire, you burned the relationship. i take your words because i am your friend. bla bla bla.

EVERYONE IS THE WINNER, WHO IS THE LOSER?

EVERYONE IS TALKING, WHO IS THE ONE LISTENING?

after the fight, everything still the same. you live your life, i live mine. the thing is how do you live your life? you live your life, with some sadness cause by something or you live your life, with happiness of everything?

OPEN YOUR ARM, BUT DONT LET GO YOUR VALUE

if they want to claim their right, and return you the mistake, listen to them, agree with them. but in your heart, tell yourself,

I GIVE you acceptance

I allow your rules

I RESPECT you as a human being

sometimes we take too much prides on ourselves. it is much better if we can give up a little bit about ourselves and make something great, isn't it? give up some of our ego, make the relationship shines.

don't misunderstand - give up yourself doesn't mean you put yourself down. deep down, you know who you are. you accept everyone and most importantly you accept yourself.

all these are noises, if you want silence, practice -

1. be impeccable with your words

2. dont take anything personally

3. dont make assumption

4. always do your best

you must be the light of yourself. not the light of buddha, jesus, or anyone else. always listen to yourself.

be strong my friend. whatever i mentioned above it is ME. there is no right or wrong. be who you are :)

if you have any questions, feel free to find me. i am always here for anyone.

easy easy

you are a great friend to me. you are nice just the way you are ^^

English: Malaysian Vs Britons

WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS

Britons: I'm sorry, sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.

Malaysians: No stock.

RETURNING A CALL
Britons: Hello, this is John Smith. Did anyone call for me a few moments ago?

Malaysians: Hello, who call?

ASKING SOMEONE TO MAKE WAY
Britons: Excuse me, I would like to get by. Would you please make way?

Malaysians: S-kew me.

WHEN SOMEONE OFFERS TO PAY
Britons: Hey! Put your wallet away, this drink is on me..

Malaysians: No need lah.

WHEN ASKING FOR PERMISSION
Britons: Excuse me, but do you think it would be possible for me to enter through this door?

Malaysians: (pointing at the door) Can ah?

WHEN ENTERTAINING
Britons: Please make yourself right at home.

Malaysians: No need shy shy one lah!

WHEN DOUBTING SOMEONE
Britons: I don't recall you giving me the money.

Malaysians: Where got?

WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER
Britons: I would prefer not to do that, if you don't mind.

Malaysians: Don't want lah.

IN DISAGREEING ON A TOPIC OF DISCUSSION
Britons: Err...Tom, I have to stop you there. I understand where you're coming from, but I really have to disagree with what you said about the issue.

Malaysians: You mad ah?

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE
Britons: Excuse me, but could you please lower your voice? I'm trying to concentrate over here.

Malaysians: Shut up lah!

WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU
Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for sometime. Do I know you?

Malaysians: See what, see what?

WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION
Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment.

Malaysians: Die lah!!

WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED
Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened?

Malaysians: What happened ah? Why like that one lah?

WHEN SOMEONE DID SOMETHING WRONG
Britons: This isn't the way to do it. Here, let me show you.

Malaysians: Like that also don't know how to do!

WHEN ONE IS ANGRY
Britons: Would you mind not disturbing me?

Malaysians: Celaka you!

PTSD

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders

In recent times this term has been used to describe a range of psychological symptoms people may experience following an extremely traumatic event that involved physical or mental harm or the threat of such. PTSD sufferers may startle easily, be irritable, become emotionally numb, lose interest in things they once enjoyed, and have trouble feeling affection for others – especially those with whom they used to be close. Some become aggressive, even violent, and tend to avoid situations or people that remind them of the original traumatic incident.

Source: National Institute of Mental Health of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

Men Are Happier?

NICKNAMES:

• If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah.
• If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-Eyes.

EATING OUT:

• When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $20, even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.
• When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.

MONEY:

• A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
• A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need but it's on sale.

BATHROOMS:

• A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel.
• The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.

ARGUMENTS:

• A woman has the last word in any argument.
• Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

FUTURE:

• A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
• A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

SUCCESS:

• A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
• A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

MARRIAGE:

• A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
• A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, but she does.

DRESSING UP:

• A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the trash, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
• A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.

NATURAL:

• Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
• Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

OFFSPRING:

• A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favourite foods, secret, fears and hopes and dreams.
• A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.